What About Modesty?

31 07 2008

     For the past few months, the one thing that has been bugging me he most is when girls flaunt themselves, knowing that guys are watching them.  Did you know that this is a major turn-off for most good Christian guys?  When they look at a girl, they don’t want to have to battle for purity of mind.  They want to see WHO you are.  Not WHAT you are trying to be.  But even the strongest Christian guy I know has problems when the girls around him wear immodest clothes.


    1st Timothy 2:9-10 says, “In a like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation,not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”


    “Propriety and moderaiton” refers to what modest apparel is.  When you ask, “Is it appropriete for this event?  Is it too much or too little?  Is it going to call too much attention to myself?”, you are using propriety.  Sadly, most people like to call too much attention to themselves.  They like to be the center of attention.  That is not good and can be destructive. 


    A couple of weeks ago, we had Hispanic Ministry VBS at my church.  Our youth group helped out, so I was there every night.  One night a couple of girls who had been there all week, too, came in with what I would consider the nicest (and most immodest) shirt in their closets on and possibly the shortest shorts and miniskirt they could find.  To help with little kids!  I thought it was a little too much. 


    Moderation is the middle ground between far too much and far too little.  Let’s say you are getting ready to go to a friend’s softball tournament.  Dirt and dust are EVERYWHERE.  The sun beats down unrelentlessly.  You have to stay there for at least a couple of hours.  So, you choose your nicest WHITE pants (at least, they USED to be white…) and a top that you might find at a prom!!!  I would say that is WAY too much.  


    Or, you might be on your way to represent your school in some sort of academic contest.  You show up in your oldest basketball shorts, a ragged t-shirt, and old, torn up tennis shoes. 


    The braided hair thing doesn’t mean that braids are immodest.  In that culture, it was considered immoderate.  Too much.  It just means that we are to be modest and controled in our dress.  We aren’t to waste our money on a $100 miniskirt no matter how cute it is.  We are to be smart with our money and spend it wisely.  Not on outrageously priced clothes. 


    How you dress shows your heart.  If you dress immodestly, that says something about what is in your heart.  Good works are far more important than any kind of jewelry you could ever buy. 


    Here is a link that has helped me and a lot of other teenage girls in the area of modesty.  It is a survey given to a bunch of different aged guys.  They answered it and now we have what guys think about modesty to help us out and encourage us to dress modestly.  It’s www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/   I hope you find it as helpful as I did!  God bless! 


Love in Christ, 

Kelsea M. 


What’s the Big Deal?

22 07 2008

    I know you must be asking yourself, “What’s the big deal?  If two people love each other, shouldn’t they show it?”  I understand why most people feel this way, but is it the right way?

    George and Elizabeth were “good kids.”  They were honors students, into every club imaginable at school, “good Christians,” and both had great personalities.  One day, George asked Elizabeth to go out to eat with his family after church the next Sunday.  Innocent enough, right?  After all, they had grown up together.  Well, eventually, the two became inseparable.  But, at the same time, they started pushing others away.  Soon, all they really had was each other.  But, they were too blissfully lost in the romance to notice, much less to care.  Their grades slacked as did their walks with God.  Soon, they were kissing and every thing else that goes along with having a steady boyfriend.  They even decided they were going to marry as soon as they graduated.  Sadly, it didn’t last.  After a mere three months of never leaving the other’s side, they got tired of each other.  They decided it would be best if they didn’t see each other anymore.  Both left that particular date with broken hearts.  Both people had given their whole hearts to the other.  Was there anything left for a spouse?  Well, as soon as they got back into the real world, they both got a big shock.  None of their friends were as friendly as they had been.  George and Elizabeth finally figured out that their friends had moved on. 

    I hate to say it, but this stuff happens. It isn’t a fairy tale.  Real girls (and guys, too) with real futures blow it every day because they “love” a guy they could never be committed to.  Stuff a lot worse than what went on with George and Elizabeth have happened.  

     That isn’t the only reason it’s important.  Another is because God wants us to be pure.  In his second letter to his young friend, Timothy, Paul says, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22 ESV) 

    So Paul is saying that we have to run away from the passions of our youth.  Paul isn’t talking about passions as in, what you’re very interested in.  He is saying that we have to flee passions as in sinful passions and desires (sex before marriage, ect.).  He is warning Timothy about falling into these temptations. 

    There IS a positive side to this command.  While we are fleeing our passions or lusts (NKJV), we are to, “pursue righteousness, faith love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord with a pure heart.”  In other words, we are to grow closer to God and to fellow true believers in our single (unmarried) years. 

    I use the word “true” because so many of the proffessing Christians don’t act like they really believe.  A lot of Christians (myself included in some areas) have fallen into the world’s trap and have become like the world.  I know this is off subject (to a point), but i is very important. 

    First John 2:4 says, “whoever says, ‘I know Him,’ but does not keep His commands is a liar and the truth is not in him.”

    First John 2:15-17 talks about loving the world and how dangerous that it is.  It says, “Do not love the world or the things in the world.  If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  For all that is in the world-the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eye and pride in possessions-is no from the Father but is from the world.  And the world is passion away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

    Pretty blunt, huh?Have you ever heard of the prince of the WORLD?That is talking aobut the devil.  According to John (with the Holy Spirit telling him what to write), the prince of the world (the devil)and his kingdom (the world and people of the world) will pass away. 

    So, what’s the big deal?  First of all, God wants us to be pure.  Free of sinful passions and lusts of youth.  Second, we could get seriously hurt, both physically and emotionally.  God certainly doesn’t want that!

    While we are fleeing sinful passions, we should grow closer to God and to true believers.  We should try to become more like Christ in our single years.  Take advantage of the time God has given us to grow as much as possible.

    Love in Christ,

    Kristin S. and Kelsea M.

A Better Way

16 07 2008

    On average, every Christian teen is in a relationship that could never lead to marriage.  Last year 25+ girls at my high school alone were pregnant with out marriage.  How sad is that? To me, it is very sad. 

    What if there was a better way? Would anyone try to change? What if God were to use Christian girls of this generation to change the course of women’s history? Because right now, our future’s don’t look so bright. We have women who refuse to change their names when they marry. We have women trying to become president. We have women who try to rule over their husband instead of vice versa.

    Is there really anything wrong with this picture?  Most girls would call me sexist, but I think there is something terribly wrong with this picture.  Ephesians 5:22-23 says “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, His body, and is itself its savior.” 

    Here we have a very profound statement for today’s culture.  It is saying that, instead of wives ruling over their husbands, as it happens so many times in today’s culture, husbands are to rule over their wives. 

    Earlier I had mentioned a better way.  Today’s young women tend to be shallow, living only for the moment at hand.  There IS hope though! God never wanted his young women messed up with shaky relationships and boyfriends that take advantage of them! He loves you! He doesn’t want to see you get hurt!

    So what is this better way?  I will go more in depth in future posts, but fore now, I will breifly explain.  Wait for the man that God already has planned for you.  Do you remember the story of how Abraham’s son Isaac found his wife? Abraham had made of his servants promise that Isaac’s wife would not be taken from the pagan land Canaan, but that he (the servant) go back to their previous home and choose a wife for Isaac there.  The servant asked God for a sign concerning the THE ONE GOD HAD ALREADY CHOSEN.  Genesis 24:44 says, “And who will say to me, ‘Drink, and I will draw for your camels.’ Let her be the WOMEN WHO THE LORD HAS APPOINTED FOR MY MASTER’S SON.” 

    This shows us that God has already picked and is preparing someone for YOU!  Since God already has it all planned, why look else where?  You might be thinking, “Now where’s the romance in THAT?”  Think about it.  Later on, on your honeymoon or something, wouldn’t it be romantic to look into the love of your life’s eyes and to tell him that he is your very first and that you’ve never given your heart away to someone I like to call a “five-minute-boyfriend.”  And then for him to say the same thing back?  Personally, I am all too excited for that moment.  I think it might be the most romantic thing I ever say to my future husband.


Love in Christ,

Kristin S. and Kelsea M.