For the past few months, the one thing that has been bugging me he most is when girls flaunt themselves, knowing that guys are watching them. Did you know that this is a major turn-off for most good Christian guys? When they look at a girl, they don’t want to have to battle for purity of mind. They want to see WHO you are. Not WHAT you are trying to be. But even the strongest Christian guy I know has problems when the girls around him wear immodest clothes.
1st Timothy 2:9-10 says, “In a like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation,not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”
“Propriety and moderaiton” refers to what modest apparel is. When you ask, “Is it appropriete for this event? Is it too much or too little? Is it going to call too much attention to myself?”, you are using propriety. Sadly, most people like to call too much attention to themselves. They like to be the center of attention. That is not good and can be destructive.
A couple of weeks ago, we had Hispanic Ministry VBS at my church. Our youth group helped out, so I was there every night. One night a couple of girls who had been there all week, too, came in with what I would consider the nicest (and most immodest) shirt in their closets on and possibly the shortest shorts and miniskirt they could find. To help with little kids! I thought it was a little too much.
Moderation is the middle ground between far too much and far too little. Let’s say you are getting ready to go to a friend’s softball tournament. Dirt and dust are EVERYWHERE. The sun beats down unrelentlessly. You have to stay there for at least a couple of hours. So, you choose your nicest WHITE pants (at least, they USED to be white…) and a top that you might find at a prom!!! I would say that is WAY too much.
Or, you might be on your way to represent your school in some sort of academic contest. You show up in your oldest basketball shorts, a ragged t-shirt, and old, torn up tennis shoes.
The braided hair thing doesn’t mean that braids are immodest. In that culture, it was considered immoderate. Too much. It just means that we are to be modest and controled in our dress. We aren’t to waste our money on a $100 miniskirt no matter how cute it is. We are to be smart with our money and spend it wisely. Not on outrageously priced clothes.
How you dress shows your heart. If you dress immodestly, that says something about what is in your heart. Good works are far more important than any kind of jewelry you could ever buy.
Here is a link that has helped me and a lot of other teenage girls in the area of modesty. It is a survey given to a bunch of different aged guys. They answered it and now we have what guys think about modesty to help us out and encourage us to dress modestly. It’s www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/ I hope you find it as helpful as I did! God bless!
Love in Christ,