One of my friends wrote this to one of her friends. Her friend asked on the Rebelution if there was a such thing as tasteful flirting. This is her answer:
I would be one of the last people to tell you to stop being friends with guys! I have some very close guy friends that are really amazing guys. (The coolest of them I have actually met on the forum.) I will also be the first person to tell you that there has to be boundaries. It can get tough, very tough, not to slip into flirty conversations. Even more when it is IM(or just regular conversations) and not just emails and projects that you are working on. Goofing around can sometimes come off as flirty and that is something I have to watch.One thing to consider is the TYPE of guys that we hang out with and are friends with. I know this from experience. It is easy to get into flirty conversations with immature guys more than guys that on fire for Christ. Most of the “friends” that are guys in my life that are more immature and flirty, we have gone our separate ways.
It is really cool to have guy friends that you can talk about theology or what you have been studying in the Bible, really having any friends that you can do that with is such a blessing. Ok, when going to my friend Josh and asking him for his opinion this is one thing he said,
“I think that kind of behavior should be reserved for one’s spouse. That kind of thing can get a little dangerous, and the morality of it is highly questionable.”
Here are some questions my mom wrote down on this topic that are meant to make people think.
What is the purpose of flirting?
What emotions/thoughts is it encouraging in a young man?
How would you feel about the same behaviors if your parents were around?
Do you think a Godly young man admires a “flirter”? (I thought it was funny that we had thought about the same point. Like mother like daughter I guess.)
Are you becoming a temptation to a young man?
Read Prov. 7 – the ungodly woman is the one who entices men to sin. (She lures him in) ~Olivia Erickson (Nobody416)
I asked one of my guy friends what he thought about “Tasteful Flirting.” This is his reply:
Yes, I would say there is. But that would also depend on your definition of “a girl.” I think it is okay when it is a person whom a guy is courting, and has made perfectly clear their desire for marriage(when directed towards that person, obviously). However, if you are talking about flirtation by a girl to a guy with whom they are not currently in a relationship with, then I would say a definite no. I believe very strongly in a courting process, and that the young man should always be the one to initiate the process. If a girl is flirting, whether or not it is in a sexually seductive manner, or not, it is a clear desire expressed by the young lady to get into a relationship with the young man.So, in answer to your question, no, I do not believe that it is OK for a young lady to flirt with a young man with whom she is not in a relationship with. ~Trey Edwards (Youth of Eternity)
I can’t add much more to it other than to recommend you read Proverbs. It uses a “flirty” woman very often as a metaphor for fools and destruction.
Love in Christ,