2. God requires us to be pure
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 – Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
If God truly lives within us, then we do not belong to ourselves. He bought us, with the life of His own, His only, son Jesus. We aren’t just defiling ourselves when we commit sexual immorality, we’re defiling God himself, for we are His temple, His children.
When we became Christians, we became His children. Think about when a child of a human parent does something wrong. It reflects on the parents. There used to be a t-shirt going around that said, “Don’t blame me. Blame my parents.” It’s the same way with God. If we call ourselves His children, and yet we do something wrong (e.g. sexual immorality), how do others take that? Sin weakens our witness as Christians. Especially sin that are so big and so bold as sexual immorality.
Does any child really want to hurt their parents? I haven’t met any that have. Why would we want to insult our heavenly Father? Imagine a father who has just found out that his beloved daughter has made a horrible decision and that she has done some sexually immoral things. Imagine a stooped over, weeping man, lamenting over the horrible decisions that she had made. He still loves her, but she has cut him deep. Now imagine that at least a hundred times worse and you have how God feels when one of His own strays.
1 Corinthians 6:15-16 – Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”
Our bodies are part of Christ himself.
Purity isn’t like a side issue with God. “Oh, I’ll be pure until I feel like I’m old enough to have sex.” “Everyone’s doing it!” “Almost nobody’s pure, it’s impossible to do, anyway.” Maybe some of those have run through your head before, maybe they are right now. God doesn’t care about what’s “convenient” for us. No matter how mature, how much pressure you get from friends, how much you want to, God’s Word always should come first.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
God doesn’t take impurity lightly. “Oh, John Doe slipped up.. Ah, well, a little bandage, all better, you’re forgiven.” No. God isn’t like some half blind and deaf, rich grandfather who only sees what you have him see. God is all-knowing, all-powerful. He knows every thought, every motive, every sinful intention.
All of us are required, if we are Christian, to not just stay away from sexual immorality, but to hate it, to not even let the desires have way in our minds.
Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Whoever even looks in lust! This isn’t just talking about guys, but girls too. You might think that that’s impossible…not even to look at someone with lust? Jesus did not sin, not once. Looking lustfully IS a sin, and we are required to not do it.
1 Peter 1:15-16 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
Ephesians 5:3-4 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.
Now, I could go into gross detail on those last two verses alone, but I think for now you get my point.
Love in Christ,
Trey Edwards left a comment on the last post asking my thoughts on intamacy in a relationship that is obviously going to lead to marriage. I think that two people who aren’t officially promised to each other should avoid anything that would arouse a “unfitting desire” as John Piper would say. 2 Timothy 2:22 says, “Flee youhful passions and pusue righteousness.” Romans 13:14 says, “Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.
But, should the question be, “Is it wrong to kiss?” Or should it be, “Does intamacy, even if it’s only pecking each other’s lips every once in a while, glorifying to God? Will my witness be strengthened if I do this?” I think the later is more fitting.
I hope this answers your question, Trey. I searched in the Bible, on John Piper’s website, and asked adults what they think before trying to answer. I tried to educate myself on this before answering so that it could be more trustworthy and it could answer your question more thouroughly. If anyone has any more questions, feel free to ask. I’ll try to answer as best as I can. =)
Love in Christ,