This week and last week has been very strange for me. An acquaintance of mine decided he liked me and was going to ask me out. So, he asked some of his friends in his English class what to get me for Valentine’s day and it eventually got to the entire class. The class went out and told other tenth graders and they went out and told other tenth graders. It went on and on until I was sure the entire tenth grade class knew about it.
At lunch, my friends and I sit close to two different tables that mostly tenth graders sit at. I didn’t want to change just because one of my friends liked me and half of the school knew it. So, I kept on sitting at this table, with my back to the guy who liked me. It was very strange sitting back to back with a guy who liked me, but I kept at it.
Yesterday, he asked me if I was doing anything on Friday. I cringed because I have had too many experiences in this and each one had ended in a broken or at least tense friendship. I was just starting to get to know this guy and he seemed like an ok guy, but God never told me through this whole thing that he was going to be my husband. I stuck to my guns and said that I thought I was doing something that day. I really didn’t know, but I had no other way to tell him that I’m not going out with anyone at this time in my life.
He looked dejected but not defeated, said ok, and walked off. A friend warned me that he would keep after it, and I knew I didn’t want to keep the lie going. I felt horrible that I hadn’t told him then, so the first time I saw him today, I went up to him and told him that I didn’t think teenagers should be dating and that I thought the teen years were years to grow closer to God, not to a guy. The entire time, I was so nervous I couldn’t catch my breath I was so nervous. I didn’t want to say the wrong thing and ruin our growing friendship.
I said all that so say this: dating completely skips over the friendship stage and moves straight to romance. It forgets getting to know another person’s personality and goes straight to getting to know another person’s body. I couldn’t tell you anything about this guy other than the fact that he is on the quiz bowl team and apparently likes it. If I were to even think about going out with anyone (not that I would, I think dating a person you’ve known and been good friends with forever is wrong.) without knowing more about them. A LOT more. I have no clue as to what he thinks about God and Jesus except that he goes to a church that isn’t exactly being very churchly. In order to love someone, you have to know them.
Love in Christ,